Love Is the Cure: On Life, Loss, and the End of AIDS
– By Elton John
While there is certainly some very interesting autobiographical material here, this is not primarily an autobiography. It is a book about AIDS.
Elton looks at the beginning of the AIDS crisis, and then brings us up to date. From the science to societal reaction we’re given the facts, as well as many stories of lives directly impacted by AIDS. Of course, all our lives are impacted by AIDS.
We start with a story of a small town in Indiana called Kokomo, as we look at the life of Ryan White. Ryan was a teenage hemophiliac who became infected with HIV from a contaminated blood treatment. We see, as Elton John states, that Ryan and his family were “true Christians.” The story also reveals the very non-Christian actions and attitudes of many of the church-goers and residents of Kokomo at that time. The majority of the townsfolk ostracize this afflicted boy and his family. “It seemed like a modern-day witch hunt, and Ryan was to be burned at the stake.” Adults were worse than the kids who teased and tormented him. His entire family suffered. This is some sad, sad commentary on the nature of fear, religion, and those who propose to represent God. But even through being shunned by the town, his classmates and his “church,” Ryan said “There’s always hope with the Lord. I have a lot of trust in God.”
Eventually, Ryan and his family did have to leave town so Ryan wouldn’t have to be buried in such a place of evil hatred. The town he moved to, only miles away, welcomed him with open arms. In the end, Ryan reached the entire nation.
The faith, love, and Christ-likeness of Ryan and his mother forever changed the life of Elton John. Elton is very honest about how his addictions, anger and ego were in control of his life. “You can’t imagine how selfish I was at the time, what an asshole I had become.” Seeing Ryan give out so much love in the face of so much hate helped E.J. face his own demons. Elton entered rehab in 1990 and has been sober ever since. His interactions and friendship with Ryan White also led to the creation of the Elton John AIDS Foundation.
Elton shares stories of personal loss, as so many of his friends and acquaintances were suffering and dying from this pandemic. There are stories of people like Rock Hudson and Freddie Mercury.
We also see AIDS on more of a national level. This, of course, includes people like Jerry Falwell, again on their religious high-horses proclaiming AIDS victims are just getting what they deserve. Even some government leaders help spread the hate, fear, and misinformation that ads fuel to the fire of an already devastating crisis.
And we look at AIDS from a global perspective.
Over in Africa, we see that in addition to an extremely bad AIDS situation, there is also an epidemic of rape. Someone is raped every 26 seconds. The men and leaders seem to think this is normal behavior, and punish the women who attempt to report being raped. These unreported atrocities give tremendous momentum to the spread of the disease.
Another disgusting story is about how the Bayer pharmaceutical company knowingly sold tainted, AIDS transmitting medication to other countries so they wouldn’t have to throw them out and lose money.
Throughout this book, we’re shown the many faces of AIDS. The involvement of some famous warriors against this disease, like President Bill Clinton, Paul Michael Glaser, Princess Diana, Elizabeth Taylor, and many others is discussed. We examine what has been done, and where we need to go from here.
I would be remiss as a reviewer if I did not mention the book’s shortcomings. They can be summed up by saying “Elton John is not an author.” The writing stumbles from time to time, and there is much redundancy.
Having said that, the stories are far too interesting, and the information far too vital to miss reading “Love Is The Cure.”
I’ve always enjoyed Elton’s music. At the same time, I sensed that he was pretty much a jerk. Reading this book has helped me see a different side of Elton John:
A loving, helpful, mellowed-by-age-and-experience, redeemed Elton John. When he speaks of his drug use, party-life, and “unprotected” multiple sexual encounters he says that it’s a “miracle” he never contracted AIDS. I feel he does not use that word lightly.
His miracle is one with which I can totally identify.
“Love Is The Cure” is truly an eye-opener, and I thank God that Elton John has written it.
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[For years, now, my wife and I have been involved in raising funds for our local AIDS Task Force here in Fort Wayne, Indiana through their annual “AIDS Walk.” This year’s walk is over, but you can still donate.
If you’d like to do so, click: www.Aids-Walk.info.
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– The bottom line is, we’re all human, and we all deserve to be helped and to be loved.
– I was consumed by cocaine, booze, and who knows what else. I apparently never got the memo that the “Me” Decade ended in 1979. The Elton ego train kept rolling right through the ‘8Os.
– Ryan White inspired a nation, changed the course of a deadly epidemic, and helped save millions of lives.
– As a child with hemophilia, Ryan had been treated with compassion. As a child with AIDS, many treated him with contempt.
– Many religious institutions, governments, and the general public sent an unmistakable message to people with AIDS: We do not care about you.
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– Falwell and his ilk helped guarantee the AIDS epidemic would get far worse.
– It still stings to recall the pure, unadulterated hatred that was spewed at gays and AIDS sufferers.
– What makes AIDS so frightening, so very lethal, is that it takes advantage of more than our biological weaknesses. It take advantage of our social weaknesses.
– Conservative religious and political leaders continue to stand in the way of implementing what we know for a hard fact will save millions upon millions of lives.
– Fighting stigma is difficult work. Instead of directing our animosity and fear at someone’s disease, we direct it at the person who is sick.
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– The discrimination that the LGBT community [in Haiti] faced after the earthquake is hard to stomach.
– Like many people, I deeply regretted much of what [George W. Bush] did in office, but [his] decision to take aggressive action [with his [President’s Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief] saved millions of lives.
– There are 2.5 million people infected with HIV in India, and their government has said essentially, “We don’t care about any of you because some of you are gay.”
– We certainly can’t do it without religious institutions on our side. Their power is too great, their influence too far-reaching. There is no excuse for furthering pain and injustice in the name of any god.
– For a small fraction of what was spent on the war in Iraq, America would forever be heralded as the country that won the war against AIDS.
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– The cure for AIDS is a matter of changing hearts and educating minds.
– The fight against AIDS comes down to compassion.
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Love Is The Cure June 20, 2013
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Vive le Rouge 2013 Photos May 7, 2013
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I just wanted to share a few pictures from the May 4th, 2013 AIDS Walk.
to all who helped Kathy and I with your support, prayers, and well-wishes during this year’s fund raiser.
This outing, I also helped work a table for the good folks at Fair Talk.
The band “Goodnight Gracie” donated their talents to add to the festivities.
Good times for some good causes.
“Then those ‘sheep’ are going to say, ‘Master, what are you talking about? When did we ever see you hungry and feed you, thirsty and give you a drink? And when did we ever see you sick or in prison and come to you?’ Then the King will say, ‘I’m telling the solemn truth: Whenever you did one of these things to someone overlooked or ignored, that was me—you did it to me.’”
TORN November 23, 2012
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Rescuing The Gospel From The Gays-Vs-Christians Debate.
– Justin Lee
I’ve read a number of books and articles concerning “gays-vs-Christians.” (I found Mel White’s “Holy Terror” to be very informative.)
Anyway, when I heard that Justin Lee was writing a book about the subject, I thought “Well. That’s nice.”
I figured it would be an OK book. I mean, I’m a fan and promoter of his ministry. Still, with all I’ve read, I didn’t really expect anything, well, “special.”
Let me say now, this book is special.
I read one reviewer who said that, much of the time, it was like he was reading his own story. There are strong marked differences between Justin’s story and mine. Still, there is much here to which I can relate.
This is an incredibly intimate, raw, real testimony of an amazing young man (nicknamed “Godboy” as a youth) who’s heart for God is primary to his being. [The Force is strong in this one.]
“Torn” is a memoir, but it’s more than that. It’s also an expose on misinformation. And, it’s a call, not to arms, but to peace. It’s written, not with animosity, but with truth spoken in love. Love towards those whom, greatly due to a lack of understanding, continue to cause damage, oppression, and heartache to God’s LGBT children.
We’re told many personal stories. If this were a work of fiction, the first chapters of “Torn” would be considered “character development ” It’s like we really get to know Justin. He tells us of his realization of being gay, coming out to family and friends, the rejection and hostility from those who should be providing help and support, and later, his experience with the ex-gay movement ( a movement with which I also have first-hand knowledge.)
Speaking of which…
If I have one “fault” to find in “Torn,” it’s that, while discussing the “ex-gay” myth, Justin more than once mentions gay men stuck in “straight” marriages they are not happy with.
That’s fine. It’s a common occurrence.
But he doesn’t seem to acknowledge that there are those who, while reconciled with and accepting of their same-sex attractions, are happily married and genuinely sexually attracted to their opposite-sex spouse, with that spouse being the only opposite-sex attraction. [Many may fall into the EX–ex-gay category.] Yes, these are a minority within a minority, but I’m finding there are more than one might expect.
In the 5th chapter, “Why Are People Gay,” the theories, research and science of why people are gay is addressed. If you’ve never really looked at the facts that we have (and what we don’t have) this is good introductory material.
In the mid 70’s, someone in our youth group would jokingly say to another, “You know the way you are? Quit being that way!”
In the chapter “South Park Christians” we examine the reality of that flawed philosophy. We see that all too often, Christians end up imitating Job’s “comforters” rather that Christ. Sometimes, sadly, a Christian friend is the last person you can trust. Well-meaning people, generally loving people, can sow seeds of discord and hate when they think they know things that they really don’t know.
At one point, Justin discovers “The Other Side,” and gets to see what the “party” life is like for many gays. The thing is, gay or straight, that kind of life is a dangerous road. It’s a life that Justin knows simply doesn’t mesh with his belief system.
In “Back to the Bible,” we examine the historical, cultural, and “translational” context of the so-called “clobber passages” which some Christians are so anxious to quote (misquote). Mr. Lee is by no means the first to offer this study, but I must say his presentation is one of the best I’ve read. Again, his love of God and commitment to truth shine through.
We glean truth from “The Princess Bride, and later from “Fiddler On The Roof.” Justin quotes from Philip Yancey’s “What’s So Amazing About Grace,” which is a book I also highly recommend. (Actually, I used that to teach a Sunday School class years ago. It was that book that provided one of the first steps that led to my “coming out” of right-wing fundamentalism.)
Justin is also honest enough to show that he, too, is not immune to stereotyping the “other.”
There are many insights that Justin gives on how to relate gay friends and family members; material very much needed in the evangelical community.
We’re given suggestions on how to create a better world and “see the church become what God has called her to be.”
One very important factor to remember here is that Justin was not sexually active. He was not looking for any justification of his actions. He did and does believe in committed, monogamous relationships. He was seeking God for whatever God wanted of him, no matter where that would lead. You’ll be hard pressed to find a more “Bible-based,” Christ-centered approach to the subject matter than you’ll find in “Torn.”
As you read “Torn,” and as Mr. Lee shares from his heart and life, one of two things, I think, will happen:
Either your heart will soften, or it will harden. I can’t imagine it would remain unchanged.
I check my blog stats often, so I know I have had hundreds of readers from all over the globe. Most of them, of course, I’ve never met. Many are now facebook “friends.” I’ve no idea how many “non-virtual” friends or family members read my writings. But to all reading now, near and far, known and unknown, if you ever considered reading a book I recommend, make “Torn” that book.
Wherever you stand on gay equality, or the Christian/gay “debate,” if you’ve the slightest interest in having an informed, rational discussion of the subject, if you honestly seek understanding, if you want to be a part of reconciliation instead of alienation, you owe it to yourself, and really, to the gay and lesbian friends and family you may not even know you have, to read “Torn.”
I ask you, I encourage you, I implore you, please, read this book.
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“The most important book I’ve read in years.” – Rachel Held Evans
“This is the book that every Evangelical, Charismatic, and Roman Catholic Christian should read on the question of homosexuality.” – Brian D. McLaren
“This book is full of three things that are not always much in evidence in our debates on sexuality; fresh air, common sense and manifest love of Christ.” – Dr. Rowan Wilson, Archbishop of Canterbury
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A few quotes:
– Though none of them knew it, they were talking about me. Laughing at me. condemning me. And it was getting to me.
– Dialogue means we must set aside our own prejudices and language preferences for the sake of communication…
gracious dialogue is hard for a lot of people. It feels wishy-washy to them.
– The church’s “antihomosexual” reputation isn’t just a reputation for opposing gay sex or gay marriage; it’s a reputation for hostility to gay people.
– Because of the way Jesus read and applied Scripture, I could no longer justify condemning a loving, committed, Christ-centered relationship based solely on gender.
– More than anything in the world, I wanted to represent my God well, and I prayed every day for the opportunities to do so.
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– Some parents have kicked their kids out, disowned them, and written them out of their wills. Some have even told their kids they wished they were dead.
– Gay…straight…bi-sexual…These words don’t tell us anything about the person’s behaviors, beliefs, or plans for the future; they only tell us to whom the person is generally attracted.
– I believe our goal should be truth, not ideology.
– Outsiders say our hostility toward gays–not just opposition to homosexual politics and behaviors but disdain for gay individuals–has become virtually synonymous with the Christian faith. (Kinnaman/Lyons in “unChristian”)
– I knew things were going to be okay. And God was going to be with me. The church, however, was another matter.
– A little information can alter our entire understanding of a situation.
– No one wanted to wait tables on Sundays…[Christians were] usually the most demanding, and they’re always the worst tippers…
if you see your table praying before a meal, you can mentally subtract a third from your tip. [To see how this relates to the subject matter, Buy the book. Click HERE.]
– So when Jesus healed people on the Sabbath, it was a big deal. Here he was, claiming to represent God, and yet he wasn’t even following one of the most important of all God’s commandments.
– The law was put in charge to lead us to Christ. Christ did not come to lead us to the law…
everything in the Bible points to Jesus.
– What if we were turning people away from God by misapplying the Bible?
– It is possible to live in loving, Christian community in the midst of significant theological disagreements.
For some of my related experience, read
Vive Le Rouge 2012 Photos May 7, 2012
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We celebrated our 33rd wedding anniversary by, once again, participating in Vive Le Rouge, Fort Wayne AIDS walk.
Thanks SO MUCH to those who gave donations.
The event raised much needed funds for use by the AIDS Task Force in Fort Wayne.
Food, fun and great entertainment helped make it an evening to remember.
The mission of the AIDS Task Force is to help improve the quality of life for men, women, and children with HIV and AIDS, to educate the community in order to decrease the incidence of HIV and STD infection and to increase the public’s understanding of and compassionate response to HIV and AIDS.
For us, this is just one of the ways we’re living out Jesus’ call bring a little of heaven to earth.
The gospel isn’t about exclusion. It’s about being blessed to bless others.
In This Life.
Kathy & Dave
Facts On Marriage Equality November 10, 2010
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Marriage is about committed couples who want to make a lifelong promise to take care of and be responsible for each other—that’s true of same-sex couples, too. Straight and gay couples want to marry for the same reasons, to build a life with the person they love.
Ending the exclusion of gay people from marriage would not change the “definition” of marriage, but it would remove a discriminatory barrier from the path of people who have made a personal commitment to each other and are now ready and willing to take on the responsibilities and legal commitment of marriage. These couples are asking to be included in the current definition of marriage: love, commitment and security shared between two people. When same-sex couples marry, they don’t change the “definition” of anyone else’s marriage.
Extending the freedom to marry to same-sex couples would not compel any church or clergy to marry gay and lesbian couples. It would allow clergy members who wish to marry same-sex couples to do so. Churches have long been able to decide who they would and would not marry whether it’s divorced individuals looking to remarry or interfaith couples.
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Bad Theology and Crazy Politics November 3, 2010
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Bad Theology and Crazy Politics (Why the Republicans Won)
– by Frank Schaeffer
One reason the Republicans won on Tuesday is because many of their supporters have already given up on this world and are waiting for the next. I know, I used to be one of them.
Jerry Jenkins and Tim LaHaye’s Left Behind series of sixteen novels (so far) represents everything that is most deranged about religion. It also is a reason and symptom of the hysteria that grips so many “conservatives” in the Republican Party. Frankly: to borrow from Jon Stewart they do believe that these are the “End Times” not just “hard times.”
My late father, Francis Schaeffer, was a key founder and leader of the Religious Right. My mother Edith was also a spiritual leader, not the mere power behind her man, which she was. Mom was a formidable and adored religious figure whose books and public speaking, not to mention biblical conditioning of me, directly and indirectly shaped millions of lives and ruined quite a few too.
For a time I joined my Dad in pioneering the Evangelical anti-abortion Religious Right movement. In the 1970s and early 80s when I was in my twenties I evolved into an ambitious, “successful” religious leader/instigator in my own right.
I changed my mind for reasons I describe in my book Patience With God (just published in paperback). I no longer ride around with the likes of Mike Huckabee (who named my Dad’s fundamentalist books his favorites) “saving” America for God, nor am I a regular on religious TV and radio these days.
I still see a religious connection in public policy though that I think a lot of commentators miss — for instance, that lots of the energy behind this mid-term election came from the ghosts of the Religious Right.
The Left Behind novels have sold tens of millions of copies while spawning an “End Times” cult, or rather egging it on. Such products as Left Behind wall paper, screen savers, children’s books, and video games have become part of the ubiquitous American background noise. Less innocuous symptoms include people stocking up on assault rifles and ammunition, adopting “Christ-centered” home school curricula, fearing higher education, embracing rumor as fact, and learning to love hatred for the “other,” as exemplified by a revived anti-immigrant racism, the murder of doctors who do abortions, and possibly even a killing in the Holocaust Museum.
And now that the “death panel” republicans who also claimed Obama is the Antichrist are in power, maybe its time to take a look at the religious insanity that beats at the heart of their movement.
No, I am not blaming Jenkins and LaHaye’s product line for murder or racism or any other evil intent or result. What I am saying is that unless you take the time to understand the End Times folks you will never “get” the mid-term election result.
Feeding the paranoid delusions of people on the fringe of the fringe contributes to a dangerous climate that may provoke violence in a few individuals. It’s also one of the big reasons that the nutty fringe is now the “center.” If you believe the Bible is literal and true and that this is the “End” then the crazies look sane and the sane look crazy. Welcome to the new congress.
And convincing folks that Armageddon is on the way, and all we can do is wait, pray, and protect our families from the chaos (or from the first black president) that will be the “prelude” to the “Return of Christ,” is perhaps not the best recipe for political, economic, or personal stability, let alone social cohesion. Glenn Beck cashes in on this when he sells gold on TV and survivalist gear.
But this End Times cult may also not be the best philosophy on which to build American foreign policy! The momentum toward what amounts to a whole subculture seceding from the union (in order to await “The End”) is irrevocably prying loose a chunk of the American population from both sanity and their fellow citizens.
Enter the “new” Tea Party candidates.
The evangelical/fundamentalists/Republican Far Right — and hence, from the early 1980s until the election of President Obama in 2008 and now in the mid-term lashing out, the Religious Right as it informed U.S. policy through the then dominant Republican Party — are in the grip of an apocalyptic Rapture cult centered on revenge and vindication. This End Times death wish is built on a literalist interpretation of the Book of Revelation. .
As I explain in my book Patience With God: Faith for People Who Don’t Like Religion Revelation was the last book to be included in the New Testament. It was included as canonical only relatively late in the process after a heated dispute. The historic Churches East and West remain so suspicious of Revelation that to this day it has never been included as part of the cyclical public readings of scripture in Orthodox services. The book of Revelation is read in Roman and Anglican Churches only during Advent. But both Rome and the East were highly suspicious of the book. The West included the book in the lectionary late and sparingly. In other words, the book of the Bible that the historical Church found most problematic is the one that American Evangelicals latched on to like flies on you know what.
Don’t stop now!
Read the rest of this VERY interesting and thought provoking article. CLICK HERE.
Yeah, He Said That. September 29, 2010
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“I’m a Christian by choice.”
“My family didn’t – frankly, they weren’t folks who went to church every week.
And my mother was one of the most spiritual people I knew, but she didn’t raise me in the church.
“So I came to my Christian faith later in life, and it was because the precepts of Jesus Christ spoke to me in terms of the kind of life that I would want to lead – being my brothers’ and sisters’ keeper, treating others as they would treat me.”
“And I think also understanding that Jesus Christ dying for my sins spoke to the humility we all have to have as human beings, that we’re sinful and we’re flawed and we make mistakes, and that we achieve salvation through the grace of God.”
“But what we can do, as flawed as we are, is still see God in other people and do our best to help them find their own grace.”
“That’s what I strive to do. That’s what I pray to do every day.” “I think my public service is part of that effort to express my Christian faith.”
— Barack Obama
[Yeah, he said that.]